Feeling ignored at church

I go to an Anglican church in England and the ministers are super friendly and really good at preaching BUT the rest of the congregation are just terrible. Since I started going approximately a year ago I have literally only spoke to 1% of the people who go there.. most people just shun you. What is more disheartening is when people decide to speak to you and then the following week totally blank you and don't acknowledge you. This is really harsh and makes you feel as though they think you are not worth their time because you didn't pass some sort of weird social test. The people I do speak to also only seem to want to speak to me for 5 minutes before the service just to pass the time.. or to show off or to belittle you in some way. It is really rough. why are churches like this it goes against what it says in the bible. Has anyone else experienced this or have any advice for me? Thanks"

 I completely understand what you are going through. It is tough when you attend a church that doesn't feel welcoming or loving... Iv been to many. The sad truth is that many churches struggle to create a community that is truly inclusive and supportive. However, it is important to remember that this is not what God intended for His church. 

In the book of Romans, it says, "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves" (Romans 12:10, NIV). This verse is a clear reminder that we are called to love and honor each other as brothers and sisters in Christ. It is not about passing some kind of social test or trying to impress others. It is about showing genuine love and care for those around us, regardless of their background or social status. 

Unfortunately, some people in the church have forgotten this fundamental principle. They may be more focused on their own interests or preoccupied with their social circles. However, we must not let their behavior discourage us from pursuing our faith and seeking community with other believers. 

In the book of Hebrews, it says, "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another" (Hebrews 10:24-25, NIV). This verse is a reminder that we are not meant to walk this journey of faith alone. We need each other to encourage and support us, to spur us on toward love and good deeds. 

So, if you are feeling discouraged by the lack of community in your church, do not give up. You may also want to talk to your minister or church leaders about your concerns. They may not even be aware of the issue and may be willing to take steps to create a more welcoming environment. 

Remember, the church is not perfect. It is made up of imperfect people who are all on a journey of faith. But with God's help, we can work together to create a community that reflects His love and grace. So, let us encourage one another and strive to create a church that honors and loves each other as Christ has called us to do.

Yes I know thw feelign well. But keep this in mind... we all have our own insecurities and struggles, and sometimes those things can manifest in the way we interact with others. It's possible that the people at your church are simply shy or socially awkward, and it has nothing to do with you personally.

However, if you feel like you're consistently being ignored or belittled, it's worth examining your own behavior as well. Are you approaching others with an open and friendly attitude? Are you making an effort to get to know people, or are you waiting for them to come to you? Sometimes, taking the initiative to befriend others can go a long way in breaking down barriers.

Another thing to keep in mind is that building relationships takes time. It's rare to find a genuine connection with someone after just one conversation. So don't be discouraged if you're not immediately embraced by the entire congregation. Keep showing up, keep making an effort, and eventually you'll find your tribe.

Try also to focus on the positives of church. Yes, it can be frustrating when people don't seem to want to connect with you. But at the end of the day, we don't go to church for the people - we go for God. Remember that you're there to worship and learn, and to connect with your Creator. Don't let the actions of others distract you from the real reason you're there.

In Matthew 18:20, Jesus says, "For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them." So even if it feels like you're alone in a sea of cliques, know that you are not truly alone. God is there with you, and He sees your heart and your desire for community. Keep seeking Him, and He will provide the connections you need.

I am sorry to hear of your struggles with the congregation at your Anglican church. It is horrible to feel shunned and belittled by those who should be our brothers and sisters in Christ.

However, let us not forget that the church is made up of sinners, and we all fall short of the glory of God. We must extend grace to those who may not yet see the value in welcoming others into the fold.

It is important to remember that the church is not a social club where we go to simply pass the time or show off. Rather, it is a place where we come together to worship God and connect with others who share our faith.

Perhaps you could take the initiative to reach out to others in the congregation, even if they have not shown you the same kindness. Show them the love of Christ, and perhaps they will come to see the error of their ways.

In the meantime, seek comfort in the knowledge that God sees your heart and knows your struggles. Lean on Him for strength and guidance, and trust that He will lead you to a community of believers who will welcome you with open arms.

Remember, my friend, that the church is not perfect, but it is still a vital part of our journey as Christians. Let us continue to seek the truth and the love of Christ, even in the midst of imperfection.